The biggest issue with the self-help industry is the moulds that are created and the box that you are seemingly being forced into. I almost want to say “unfortunately” here but rather I will choose the word “thankfully” because thankfully there is no such thing as “one size fits all” when it comes to a solution.
If you have read our blogs you will see that we prefer to give advice coming from what worked for us. We leave it open for you to try it so you can take what works, and throw away the rest. Through trial and error, you can come up with a custom solution that works for you.
For example, when it comes to sleep habits:
- You can read 2 blogs, one tells you to get 4 hours because that is what the most successful people do
- The other says 7-8 hours where you go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day.
- You try 4 hours, it doesn’t work so you go for 7 hours strategy from 10pm-5am and you feel refreshed.
We should never feel guilty if something worked for someone else but does not work for us, it just means we need to adjust and try something else. Work/life balance is not impossible, but each season may look different. When we think balance, we think 50% one way, 50% the other. As the Father of a newborn and a toddler, I can tell you that my life right now is not 50/50. It is more of a 70/30, family over work right now.
As we create routines and our newborn starts to settle in, that will come closer to 50/50. It may even have to sway to more work to make up for that time, maybe a 60/40.
We have a pie chart exercise in part 4 of this series that you can see what your life looks like right now and where you want it to be. DO NOT be married to those percentages for the rest of your life, be flexible and re-visit it in different seasons of life.
As always, if there is anything we can do to help you out, please do not hesitate to contact us.
– Derek Burbidge
Manager of Sales & Marketing for VEA